The sacred dance of healing – part 2
In part 2 of this exclusive interview with DR CRYSTAL JONES, she explores the notion of being here in the present moment. Dr Jones is fluent in many languages of healing, including medicine, alternative healing, yoga and meditation. She acts as a guide for women who are ready to dive within and heal themselves.
Q: We’re undergoing a collective evolution. You have a number of clients you’ve seen over time. Do you see any patterns that are common in those things that come up for them or ways they move through challenges?
CJ: The pattern I see the most is when we have not understood our own value system and our own truth. I can speak on this in many different cases, but let’s take fertility.
I see people who tell me they can’t get pregnant. This may happen when they’ve seen a lot of people in their life having issues or a doctor has told them that they are infertile. There may have been times during their lives when they told their bodies not to procreate. So a lot of things have been ‘voiced’ to their body. They have created a truth that they now believe. So I can’t do anything to help them until that narrative has changed. And it’s because of what someone has told them. It’s the price of giving power to an outside source. What did somebody tell you? What did that book tell you? What did the doctor tell you? Those are some of the biggest blocks I see.
Another block I see, especially with women, is in people who have no idea who they are, except in relation to others. When they don’t know who they are, or what their higher Self is, then when they are asked to move into their higher Self they can’t do it, because it’s dependent on other people. Then when the relationship changes – whether child or mother or daughter or wife – they feel like they don’t have any identity anymore.
So at a core level, identity is also a major milestone for people. When they tell me who they are at a fundamental level, without titles and roles, it blows their minds that they’re actually somebody other than a savior for someone else.
Q: And when people let go of those identities, what are they left with? What do they discover?
CJ: They begin discovering that their life is an experience. They get to the point where they can say, “I am”, without needing an adjective qualifying it. When they get to that point, there is no need to be strong or weak, good or bad. At the “I am” junction, they are able to be in the present moment, and to adapt to things that come, things that go, because they are not having to be strong or weak, they’re not having to make a good decision or a bad decision. “I am” is based on my truths, my beliefs and my values, and if I want that to change I will.
When you sit in that silence
you experience yourself, and
you really get to feel what
comes up for you.
Q: You move past the duality.
CJ: Yes, you realize that your shadows and your light and your gray scale are not outside of you. You really understand oneness.
Q: What practices do you recommend to help integrate that oneness?
CJ: Well, obviously I recommend meditation. I know that’s something that a lot of people are doing today, but really sit in silence before you start your day, before you ask everybody else what you’re supposed to be doing today, before you ask your phone what you’re supposed to be doing today; just sit in that silence.
When you sit in that silence you experience yourself, and you really get to feel what comes up for you. If you’re feeling something that you can’t ignore, like anger or jealousy or “I’m not worthy enough,” sit with that feeling in meditation and see what comes up for you. “Why do I feel like I’m not worthy? Why was I told I wasn’t worthy? Am I worthy?” Just sit and ask yourself those questions, not necessarily needing an answer but experiencing what comes up.
The more you experience what comes up, the more you’re telling yourself, “I really want to know who I am. I really want to come into wholeness.” A lot of the time we write down answers, and when we look at them we think, “That doesn’t look good,” or “I didn’t want that to come up.” So instead just sit with the feeling and see what comes up. That’s how you go into certain experiences and formulate your own truth.
Q: You spoke before about truth evolving. Can you speak a little bit about how we start off with those impressions that we create as truth, and then have to examine them to see how that truth evolves?
CJ: I believe truth is evolutionary, because of a story I read about some blind people around an elephant. One person was touching the tail, another one was touching the trunk etc., and they were all saying what the elephant felt like but they all had different stories. As they walked around the elephant their truth began to evolve, because it was dependent on where they were, based on their experience and what they felt. That’s what I mean by evolutionary truth.
There is a point in life where we build a foundation, and this foundation determines our morals, our ethics, and other things, and then life hits us. We want to explore something else, but we’ve been told that it is wrong. So, evolutionary truth really allows us to explore things that we wouldn’t have done most of the time out of fear. We start to explore new things and choose: “I like this,” or “I don’t like this,” “I’m going to integrate this,” or “I’m not going to integrate this.”
As we get older, our truth evolves from being a sperm and an egg. We’re always evolving. Do we want to get to a point of false self-mastery where we have a set of guidelines we’re going to live by, and we’re never going to allow anything to dictate or change our belief system? I think that’s where we begin to feel numb and we start to hide things and think of things that aren’t …
Sometimes situations or people come to open us up to new perspectives, but we look at them as invaders. Well, they’re not necessarily invaders. When we have a space of evolutionary truth, we’re really opening ourselves up to a lot of things, whereas when we’re in the pattern of “It has to be like this!” we don’t even know that things can resonate well with us, because we have automatically defined them as wrong.
We can ask our higher power:
“What does ‘yes’ feel like?
What does ‘no’ feel like?
Am I going with that feeling?”
That’s evolutionary truth.
A lot of what I’ve been saying is about staying in the present moment. Because evolutionary truth means “I am here right now.” What is working? What is not working? What feels right? What doesn’t feel right? It’s based on awareness of our intuition. We can ask our higher power: “What does ‘yes’ feel like? What does ‘no’ feel like? Am I going with that feeling?” That’s evolutionary truth. And sharing that with people also allows us to be less judgmental of other people’s truth, because we understand that theirs is an evolutionary process too. Ours isn’t more right than theirs.
Q: Yes, blockages to healing often seem to come from judgment and holding on to a perception that we have of ourselves or of another person.
CJ: Absolutely. That is also what generally happens during healing phases. Say you are seeing a professional who has a specific generic truth that doesn’t necessarily go with your body, but their truth is so solid that they are not able to really integrate with you because they think, “This is what I’m supposed to be,” instead of “Okay, let’s just be here. Let’s be together, and let’s do this sacred dance together.”
Q: I think that brings us full circle.
CJ: Absolutely. It’s really about being in the present moment.
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