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Lightness & balance in relationships

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Lightness & balance in relationships

ROSALIND PEARMAIN shares her experience of tuning in to others.

Think of the heart as an infinitely expanding space. Can anyone limit their capacity to love or care about others or nature or animals? This is the most special surprise about the heart. Mystics have always told us that it is an infinite space that can contain the universe. Now we can all make the same discovery quite easily.

Start by simply bringing consciousness to the area of the heart in our chest. Suppose that the Source of Light of our existence, of our real essence, is there. Open up a space to find a soft, deep, safe place inside so that you feel a bit more space and ease. Then it is possible to feel the same with others.

Feel attuned to your heart and you will quite naturally feel more harmony with others too.

Try an experiment:

First look at people with your mind’s eye. Then imagine you are seeing them with your heart. Feel the difference. You will discover a simple common humanity between you.

The word ‘tolerance’ has a root meaning about simply about making space for others to co-exist. The heart is always there to create such a space.

How can we start to feel this kind of inner space and warmth?

What about the other bit of me that judges, that closes down, that shuts others out and keeps me separate from others, especially if they are different?

Much of the time we react because we feel vulnerable or nervous.

We feel exposed and insecure.

We want others to make us feel good.

But inside we feel lacking or inadequate.

All of these thoughts and feelings can be traced to experiences we have had in our lives. They are engraved on our system, programs in our make up, and they often lead us to negative repetitive life choices in which we feel stuck. They create barriers and layers like cobwebs around our soul. Over time, we lose that sense of simple and soft, deep connection with our Source inside our heart.

Feel attuned to your heart
and you will quite naturally feel
more harmony with others too.

Yogic Transmission nourishes and relaxes us from within, like a permanent inner stream of light. It also simply dissolves the barriers very subtly and gently.

At the end of each day we remove all the weight and pressure of the day, leave us feeling like vapour, filled with a source of light. Over time, slowly and surely, we feel free of limiting patterns. We find a new kind of lightness and balance that keeps us afloat in the midst of chaos and stress.

We emanate the same feeling to others. They feel our calmness and ease and relax.

Does this all sound too good to be true? For once it is not.

Of course, we have ups and downs. Change is never linear. But over the years we stick with it because it reliably brings us deep joy, continuing discoveries, and real beauty that you cannot imagine. Simply try it for yourself.



Rosalind Pearmain

Ros lives in Abingdon near Oxford, UK, and has worked with groups of all ages during her working life. She has always been interested in how we can change and transform. In recent years she has been teaching psychotherapy and qualitative research and is a Heartfulness trainer.


  1. Thank you. I was reading this in a crowded place and was irritated. As I read it, I looked at the same people with my heart and temporarily felt one with them.

  2. Really very correct. Today morning there were some laborers working. A thought came to my mind that I will instruct them for proper work, and the next moment I got another thought that I should extend my heart in their hearts, so that they automatically get instructions from inside. It happened that they all worked very well.

  3. Simple language and simple expression. Most of the people will understand about the expansion of heart. Thank you, SR.


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