KAMLESH D. PATEL explores the nature of compatibility, and how this affects our destiny in relationships, at the time of conception and death, and during our own personal evolution.
THE SCIENCE OF SPIRITUALITY
VIBRATION AND COMPATIBILITY
Compatibility is an extremely superfine concept. It is always about the relationship between two or more subjects. It is about the similarity or difference in vibrational patterns between two subjects. For example, when two musical instruments are in tune with each other, the music is harmonious. When they are out of tune, it is awful to listen to the music performed.
When two subjects are in harmony, when they resonate at the same frequency, there is harmony and similarity. This sort of togetherness is compatibility. It occurs in all aspects of our lives from the most basic physical aspects, like the foods we eat, to more subtle feelings of comfort or discomfort. For example, when you are taking one medication, if by accident you take something that is not compatible with that drug, there is a clash. There is a war inside and you suffer as a result.
Compatibility is also a very important aspect of human relationships. For all of us, the question is how to adjust and be in tune with our spouses.
Similarly, as children grow up, their particular tendencies and habits manifest and again we all have to get used to each other. It takes perhaps twenty-five years or more. In families, we either allow entropy to take over and disintegration of the relationships happens, or we fine-tune ourselves over time to the family’s idiosyncrasies or vibrational frequency, happily adjusting to each other. It is really up to us. It is just like musicians being in tune with each other to play a beautiful symphony.
With business partners in the workplace, or in a school or college, wherever you are, there is an entire gamut of vibratory levels. You can try to interact with this level and with that level, and many things can be incompatible per se. The question is then, how do I make all vibratory levels match with my own?
We can also explore this same concept of compatibility in a more profound way, starting with how we create our own destiny through the processes of conception and death.
VIBRATORY LEVEL AT DEATH
During any particular lifetime, we create our own destiny. We make choices that affect our future, we feel guilty because of the things we should and should not have said and done, holding onto these and strengthening our guilt: “If only I had made peace with my father before he passed away,” “If only I had spent more time with my children while they were young,” etc.
Having created that destiny in this life, at the moment of death we reach our own destination accordingly, going to a certain dimension. Perhaps there are infinite dimensions. Where we go is determined by the density surrounding the soul, the vibratory level of the individual soul. According to that vibratory level, the soul finds its corresponding vibratory level in other dimensions we call ‘the other world’ or ‘the world beyond’.
Death can come any day.
Are we prepared?
Are we prepared to face
the next dimension?
So we should always remain
in the purest or finest vibratory level,
and that is the feeling of love.
The soul’s vibratory level and the dimension’s vibratory level match like lock and key. That is the natural process. The soul will find its own corresponding vibratory level and dimension accordingly. It fits well and it settles down there. So who is actually deciding this destiny?
Now, the question arises: can you prepare yourself just before the moment of death so as to choose where your soul will go after death? For example, can you completely purify yourself at that moment, so that your vibratory level is in tune with the desired dimension? No, you cannot achieve something at the last moment.
If you read a book just a day before the exam, you may pass, but it is not as good as preparing slowly. With a thorough preparation, even if you do not study the day before the exam it will make no difference, because you are well prepared. Random exams can come any day. Death can come any day. Are we prepared? Are we prepared to face the next dimension? So we should always remain in the purest or finest vibratory level, and that is the feeling of love.
VIBRATORY LEVEL AT CONCEPTION
Now what about our entry into this physical world, at the time of conception?
Back in 2000 or 2001, I was visiting my spiritual Master of the Sahaj Marg system of Raja Yoga. I wanted him to clear up the many ideas that were current about the importance of the place of conception of a baby, the place of birth and also the time of delivery, based on which we form astrological charts. So he reminded us of the following story:
In the great epic, the Mahabharata, the wise Rishi Vyas was summoned by the king to be a surrogate father, to impregnate his two queens. In today’s language, he was a sperm donor, because the king could not father children and he wanted a successor for his kingdom. You may already know what happened there.
The first queen was horrified at having to mate with an unkempt rishi, who had come after years of intense meditation. She agreed to do it, but with her eyes closed in disgust so that she did not have to look at him. As a result, the child, Dhritrashtra, the father of the Kauravas, was born blind. That is one story.
When the second queen looked at him, she turned pale with fear. As a result her son, Pandu, was born very pale.
The third mother, a chambermaid, who felt honoured and thought, “It is my fortune that tonight I am going to mate with the great Rishi Vyas,” was an insurance policy in case those two queens didn’t deliver. She felt so honoured and happy to have been chosen that her son, Vidura, was born healthy, brilliant and the wisest of the lot.
When I asked my Master, “Is the place of conception important? Is the time of delivery as important as the place?” he said, “None of this is important.” Then he said, “Think over it.”
We realised that once a child is conceived he has already brought in all the baggage he carries from his own past lives as samskaras. How does it matter afterwards when these samskaras unfold? That means the time of birth is not very important. The load of samskaras is already there, and the soul that is embodied and delivered is already there.
This story from the Mahabharata tells us how the attitude of the women at the moment of conception created the vibratory levels to attract the souls that would fit with their parentage.
It is not the time or place, but the attitude of the couple
at the moment of conception that matters.
At the moment of conception, based on the vibratory level
of those two parents, the soul with that corresponding vibratory
level will embed itself, just as at the moment of death
our vibratory level decides the corresponding dimension.
Such a beautiful idea emerged from that discussion: it is not the time or place, but the attitude of the couple at the moment of conception that matters. At the moment of conception, based on the vibratory level of those two parents, the soul with that corresponding vibratory level will embed itself, just as at the moment of death our vibratory level decides the corresponding dimension. A soul will descend into the womb that has the specific vibratory level that matches. No place can play a part in it, no time can play a part in it, but the attitude of those two parents will make all the difference. So we are all deciding the destiny of our families at that time.
Like the moment of death, at the moment of conception you cannot manufacture a fine or superfine vibration and say, “Lord please help me, I want a Vivekananda in my family.” It is not going to be there. The preparation has to be years ahead.
VIBRATORY LEVEL AND MEDITATION
Just as souls are incarnated based on the vibratory level of their parents at the time of conception, likewise, when we invite Divinity into the heart in meditation, as a lover inviting the Beloved, we create a spiritual condition that can be felt right away.
But imagine if you meditate wanting to quickly finish it off because you have pressure to go to the office or to college. Even if you want to do it nicely, you have to rush. What sort of creative condition will you cultivate when you meditate in such a rush?
At least those two queens in the Mahabharata were able to conceive one blind child and one pale child. You would not be able to create any condition, because no conception of any condition can be hoped for when you meditate half-heartedly or in a rush.
And sometimes a great condition can be created when you do make the time and take care, but if you are not careful it can be lost, like in the early days of pregnancy. This abortion of a spiritual condition happens when you are careless about your lifestyle. You have meditated beautifully, creating a profound condition within, and then afterwards you argue with your spouse or watch a violent movie or the news on the TV, and there goes your profound condition.
So we have to be very careful how we conduct our life, because that is what destiny is all about.
Article by KAMLESH D. PATEL
Kamlesh Patel is known to many as Daaji. He is the Heartfulness Guide in a tradition of Yoga meditation that is over 100 years old, overseeing 14,000 certified Heartfulness trainers and many volunteers in over 130 countries. He is an innovator and researcher, equally at home in the fields of spirituality and science, blending the... Read more