Entropy in Human Relationships

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KAMLESH D. PATEL explains how the second law of thermodynamics plays out in our relationships, leading to disintegration and breakdown, and shares with us the inputs needed to overcome entropy, bringing stability and harmony.


 The Science of Spirituality

Entropy in Human Relationships


What is entropy?

Let’s try to understand it practically. You bring a book home from the library, and then your father gives you another book as a gift. Your girlfriend gives you magazines, and you have music CDs. They all pile up on a small table in your room, so now there will be enough clutter on your table. The rest of your room is also in a disorganised state: your clothes are here, your socks are there and your towel is hanging somewhere. This is a disintegrated system; the system has gone haywire.

You get frustrated with the mess and clean everything up. You put each book where it belongs, wash your laundry and make your bed. Now the room looks cleaner than before, until again you start bringing more books and things, and again the system disintegrates and becomes disorganised. To keep things in order requires constant energy input.


We need input to stabilise any relationship, to iron out the wrinkles or differences,
so that we don’t harbour and store things forever.


So entropy is the degree of disorder or randomness in any system. The second law of thermodynamics says that entropy increases with time. It reflects the instability of a system over a period of time if there is nothing to stabilise it.

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In human relationships, we have interactions day after day and these relationships also become higgledy-piggledy. We let things build up in our inner chambers. These inner chambers become more and more disorganised as we store more and more, just like the books and clothes in our room. We keep harbouring things, and one day what we harbour explodes, unless we do something about it. We need input to stabilise any relationship, to iron out the wrinkles or differences, so that we don’t harbour and store things forever.

But do we have to do this every time we make a mistake? Do we have to offer another person ice cream or candy to always pacify them? This would mean a constant investment to maintain a relationship.

When constant input is required every time there is a fight or an argument with a friend or family member, you will require greater input each time. You may even have to buy them a Mercedes one day, if you can afford it! At the same time, it is our business to love each other, whatever the cost. You will get hurt in the process, no doubt, and there will be a lot of energy consumption from your side, but if you are prepared for it the relationship will improve.

In a family, if you have to tolerate each other, then constant input is required. In situations where you have to give constant emotional input it is a broken family, even though you may be together.


The conclusion is that it is the love that you have in your heart
that is the input that stabilises relationships.


In contrast, when there is love amongst all, and when acceptance is there, then you do not have to go on offering ice cream or going to some paradise vacation spot to patch things up. It is taken for granted that you accept each other with love. The conclusion is that it is the love that you have in your heart that is the input that stabilises relationships. Things are okay. There is a greater level of acceptance.

I am not talking about tolerance. Tolerance may be a great virtue, but when you feel, “I can’t tolerate this person’s mistakes,” love will iron out everything, so that it is okay. From where does this love come? From a pure heart; from a truthful, genuine heart.

Distrust kills a relationship, but in families where we are taught to love, to sacrifice, to accept and to remain pure, we are able to let go of everything. We can remove the incompatibility, by understanding this principle of entropy.


When zero input is needed, it means that it is the most stable relationship,
the most stable family, where I don’t have to explain myself…
Where there is love, there is no need for explanations.


When the constant state of my being is love, then the need for constant input disappears and the constant input is zero. When zero input is needed, it means that it is the most stable relationship, the most stable family, where I don’t have to explain myself. There is no need for, “I did this because…”, “I didn’t want to do this because…”. Where there is love, there is no need for explanations.


Article by KAMLESH D. PATEL


About KAMLESH D. PATEL

kamleshbhaiFrom an early age, Kamlesh Patel was interested in spirituality and meditation, and eventually came to the feet of his Guru in 1976 while still a student. He is now the fourth spiritual guide in the Sahaj Marg system of Raja Yoga meditation. Kamlesh is married with two sons, and is a role model for students of spirituality who seek that perfect blend of Eastern heart and Western mind. He travels extensively and is at home with people from all backgrounds and walks of life, giving special attention to the youth of today.


Kamlesh D. Patel

About Kamlesh D. Patel

Embracing the many roles of a modern-day spiritual Guide, you will find Kamlesh Patel equally at home meditating with a group of followers in the sublime stillness of a Himalayan ashram, teaching thousands of people to meditate at an international conference in Lyon France or Los Angeles California, addressing recruits in a police academy in Delhi and sharing tips on life skills with students at a high school campus in Mumbai.Known to many as Daaji, he has that rare and beautiful blend of eastern heart and western mind that allows him to dive deep into the centre of his existence in the heart, and simultaneously have a scientific approach to original research in the field of meditation, spirituality and human evolution.As President of the Heartfulness Institute and the fourth spiritual Guide in the Sahaj Marg system of Raja Yoga, Daaji oversees Heartfulness centers and ashrams in over 110 countries, and guides the 7,000 certified trainers who are permitted to impart Yogic Transmission under his care.

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  1. abhyasi t. Baskararaj : November 13, 2015 at 3:27 am

    Entropy article is beautiful. Zero input is liked by me.

  2. Hey very nice blog!

  3. Sriram munagala : January 9, 2016 at 3:10 am

    Liked the conclusion that love in us is the input that stabilises the relationships.

  4. Beautiful article. It helps more and more people to come out of so-called ENTROPY. Knowingly or unknowingly many are entangled in this ENTROPY. With this scientific explanation or approach, one can definitely realise how important that constant input is to lead a balance Life. LOVE.

  5. I learned about entropy when I studied chemistry in high school, but you bring it to human relationships. Very nice sharing, thanks.

  6. Referring to the Entropy article: the explanation is so logical, totally do-able. Compels me to follow the Love Path suggested.

  7. It touched my heart after knowing that where there is love, there is no need for explanations.

  8. “Trust is needed … No explanations required like I did this because … or I did not do this because …” This is practical spirituality befitting both worlds.

  9. Wonderful teaching for us – I have to live according to his teaching.

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